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Defining Brave

by Katie

What it means to be brave

 

Have I ever told you brave is not easy?  Rarely ever is it easy.  If it were, it wouldn’t be brave it would just be…doing, I guess.

It may feel easy to push brave on someone else.  My daughter on the monkey bars, your son getting up in front of an audience, your husband going to a job interview.  Those people we believe in so much, we know them so very well, we never doubt their ability.  We know that they will soar, that they will shine and we will love them every time they fall trying.

 

defining brave

 

But when it is you, and not them, it is harder. So much harder.

Sometimes brave is saying the hard thing and sometimes it is saying nothing at all.

Sometimes brave is taking that step forward and sometimes it is taking a step back.

It is leaning in and pulling away.  It is holding a hand when you are scared and there are no words. It is trusting The Word when it feels like all hope is lost.  Those feelings, they’re tricky, remember?

Brave is important, friends, so very important, but it’s not easy.

 

Be strong and courageous

 

Did you read the verse on that image, friends?  Read it closely.  Strength and courage – brave – is a command.  Not a request or suggestion, not a good idea or lofty goal.  We are commanded to be brave.  This truth is here because God knew we would need it.

But brave takes discernment.  It needs a governor, a barometer, a compass.

Brave is not a license to let our minds and mouths run wild.  It is not a free pass to speak without regard, to trample others, to steamroll, bulldoze.  What if sometimes, true bravery is saying nothing at all?

Sometimes bravery is standing up and sometimes it’s bending low.  In service, in humility, in submission.

Sometimes brave is showing you are strong and sometimes it is showing that you, even you, are weak.

It’s messy friends, friends.  It’s complicated to define.  But it’s there just the same.  It the thick of it, there awaits a brave and righteous choice.

 

Wisdom

 

It is brave to love, to hope, to have faith, to believe.

Brave always flies in the face of fear.  Not because fear doesn’t exist.  Scary things most certainly do exist.  But brave chooses not to be overcome by them because braves digs deep.  It is rooted, grounded.

It can feel like a bit of a moving target, friends, defining brave.  It will be different for you than it is for the next person.  You cannot compare brave.  What scares you, what requires that you summon every ounce of courage, won’t even rattle your friend, your spouse, your mom.  Our scales are not the same.

 

Fear not

 

It can be hard to make sense of brave, until we are rooted in a firm foundation of Truth.  Brave is not a slippery slope. It stands firm on Truth.  A Truth that runs deep, that sheds light, that brings order to chaos, peace in the storm and hope when it feels like there is none to be found.

 

Fear

 

Storms come, friends.  I can promise, they do.  Brave will mean more than monkey bars.  More than a quick pep talk and a wide smile.  Your hands may shake, your voice may crack and the tears, they may come when you are required to dig deep and be brave.

May I simply request that we be ready?

Right now, be ready.

Seek Truth, know Truth.  Grow in faith when the sea is calm so that you will have the strength to step out of the boat when the storm comes.  The heart work we do now, will make make all the difference when that storm comes.

 

 

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  1. Lisa Morris says

    August 27, 2015 at 8:28 am

    Hi Katie! I am so thankful God had me visit you today! This post has been a good reminder of what bravery really is. Through His strength, wisdom, and knowledge He gives we can be brave. Being silent can be brave! I never really thought of it that way. I am in a situation where I know I have had to be silent. It has been a long silence! God has made me brave waiting. Thanks again. Have a blessed week:)
    Visited today from Grace and Truth.

    • Katie says

      August 27, 2015 at 9:10 pm

      Thank you for sharing that, Lisa! That is exactly the place I wrote this from, where being brave meant keeping my mouth shut. It is no easy task. But I can tell you from that very experience that, in the end, I was able to see God in it all so very clearly. When I was brave enough to be silent, He spoke. Praying that for you as well, Lisa. <3

  2. Daisy @ Simplicity Relished says

    August 18, 2015 at 7:59 am

    This right here! I love the verses you pulled to better explain what true courage is.

    • Katie says

      August 18, 2015 at 1:33 pm

      Thanks, Daisy. The verse always say it better than I ever could! 🙂

  3. Tiff says

    August 18, 2015 at 7:23 am

    ❤️

  4. Michelle says

    August 18, 2015 at 6:46 am

    I hate that brave takes discernment. I hate that brave needs a compass. I hate waiting. I hate that it isn’t a free pass. But. But. But. I love knowing that God has been a rock in the past. That He has guided and propelled me, that He has called me to retreat (soooo hard). Because now I am back again where I wait for the trumpet charge and that is a ticking bomb…..but as you say, if roots run deep…..I’m digging my heels in trusting I will be called to take action …..or stand down….. Thanks for this post Katie, I needed a reminder of God’s faithfulness.

    • Katie says

      August 18, 2015 at 1:32 pm

      <3 You so get it.

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